I don’t have the softest hair. In fact, my husband once compared it to hay (isn’t that sweet?). I was running my fingers through his hair and said, “Your hair is so soft.” He did the same with mine and responded, “Yours feel like hay.” Romantic is his middle name.

Not that I’m reacting to his very guy-typical feelings about my hair – we’ve been married for eight years and I find it endearing and inoffensive. It’s actually a well-known fact that my hair is thick, coarse and, yes, “hay”-like. That’s why I have been on an endless quest to find hair conditioners and treatments to soften the feel of my hair. It will always be thick and coarse (which is actually a great thing because my hair is super-healthy), but it can’t hurt to butter it up.

The name of Redken’s All Soft Heavy Cream got my attention. But while it granted it some smoothness, it did nothing to make the hair feel softer. Although, when I tried it on my kids’ super-fine hair, it did wonders for shine and texture; their hair instantly became very soft and flowy. This isn’t the right product for my needs, but for dry and damaged hair (or your tot’s), this is definitely a worthwhile treatment to use once a week (no more because it will create build-up). On Amazon for $15.73. I will stick to what works for me, so far the best thing for creating a “naturally” softer texture is the Neutrogena Triple Moisture.